Being Left

If you have been left by your partner then you are one of the many spouses across the country who have experienced a very serious trauma. We hear about marital breakups all the time from friends, family and the media, but somehow you never thought it would happen to you. You are in a state of shock, and probably unable to accept the realty of your situation. Divorce trauma suspends you in space with no particular sense of the past ,present or future. This is a terrifying place to be, and it may feel like you will be stuck here forever, but just like everything else in life this transition will come to an end.

The symptoms of divorce trauma  are so frightening because they are powerful and often feel irrational. Incessant crying, deep seeded rage and high levels of anxiety are normal and common for spouses who have been left by their partner. Everything you are experiencing is treatable, and with the proper professional support, will diminish in a short period of time. Your primary focus during this time is taking care of yourself and getting the help you need to manage your emotional overwhelm, to find the willpower to continue on, and to be able to function on a daily basis well enough to keep your life in order.

We understand that your dreams have been crushed, that you feel as though you have been robbed of the life you thought you would have forever, and that you probably cannot believe or accept that this is even happening.


Support: We will provide a safe, supportive, and non-judgemental space for you to begin to heal. We have seen everything when it comes to marriage, separation and divorce so you will be in good hands. This will be your first chance to tell your story completely and openly.

Understanding: We will help you make sense of what has happened so you can ground yourself and begin to pick up the pieces of what feels like a fragmented life. We know you probably feel broken, but we will help you begin to feel whole again.

Guidance: We will provide you with expert advice and guidance about your next steps. Many people try to make important decisions during this time, which can be dangerous and damaging. We will help you protect yourself, your money and your integrity.

Treatment: We will thoroughly assess your level of functioning both mentally and physically, and treat your symptoms accordingly. Most people don’t realize the level of trauma their mind and body have experienced; we see you as having a treatable condition that can be cured.


Your first appointment will include a thorough assessment of your current circumstances. We do this through the use of structured interview specifically designed for individuals experiencing the trauma of being left. After the first appointment we will continue to meet with you 1-2 times per week with a minimum of 8 meetings. Our work is time-limited meaning we do not see open ended ongoing therapy as being productive. As a result, we will work with you to set goals and to meet them for the most effective and efficient results. At the end of 8 meetings we will evaluate progress and determine the course for further treatment if necessary.

I am not portraying myself any longer as a victim who was left by her husband, but as a woman who went through a divorce which is now over and done with. This is a fact in my life… but it does not define who I am. He didn’t take my life away or ruin my life. He gave me a second chance. Divorce Detox works.  Thank you. You rock! — Janice, client


Percentage of married people who reach anniversaries:


5th: 82%
10th: 65%
15th: 52%
25th: 33%
35th: 20%
50th: 5%