Go To Sleep!
Sleep is one of our most precious resources, yet a good night’s sleep can be hard to come by during divorce. Sleep helps to restore balance to the body and mind. It regulates chemical processes and produces melatonin, a chemical that helps us heal. Sleep also resets the brain, allowing it to create new memories and learn new things. Serotonin and dopamine levels rise during sleep allowing for more upbeat attitudes and calmer thinking. These chemicals make us feel energetic and help to regulate health. Leptin is replenished and helps balance food intake and energy expenditures. During sleep, cortisol levels decrease, helping relieve stress and curb premature aging. We need sleep to renew our energy and heal during the divorce transition.
Step One: Reframe
The first step to readjusting your sleep is reframing the way we think about it. For many, sleep is an activity with a goal. The problem is that when we fail to reach that goal, our mind and body react to the failure which causes more sleep loss. Reframing sleep to relaxation changes the goal. If sleep eludes you, accept it without judgment. Next, move on to the activity of relaxing. With relaxation as your goal, you can begin to prepare yourself for sleep, rather than demanding it from yourself, which rarely works.