Your Day of Independence

  How you spend your independence day this year is completely up to you. Know this, it can be a positive, uplifting experience. It’s all up to you. You can be with a large group of people, a smaller group, or get zen and go at it alone. The choice is yours. If you are […]


Love After Love, Love after Divorce

Love After Love (by Derek Walcott, recipient of the 1992 Nobel Prize in Literature), is a reminder that you are enough.   The time will come when, with elation, you will greet yourself arriving at your own door, in your own mirror, and each will smile at the other’s welcome,   and say sit here. […]

Be Your Own Hero and Save Yourself

Identifying Emotional Abuse

Emotional abuse (also referred to as psychological abuse or mental abuse) is defined by Wikipedia as “a form of abuse characterized by a person subjecting or exposing another to behavior that may result in psychological trauma, including anxiety, chronic depression, or post-traumatic stress disorder.” The National Domestic Violence Hotline warns that you may be in an emotionally abusive relationship if you partner exerts […]

Butterfly Change

Transform Your Relationship

  Whether it’s the inspiring change of the monarch butterfly — taking time to grow, transform and migrate across thousands of miles — or the awakening of self-awareness, there is a profound emotional response to transformation. Walking home from the office, I saw a butterfly flitting in a garden and I was reminded of how […]


Feeling Depressed? Look Up

Feeling Depressed? Look Up Making connections with others will help you feel better about yourself and the world around you. Remember, you are not alone. Join a local club or group if you are having trouble making connections. Eat well and exercise when you are feeling blue. Exercise and healthy food release happy chemicals in […]

Obstacles To Getting The Help You Need

Going through a divorce is one of the most challenging life transitions. The feelings that get invoked around separation and divorce can be debilitating and overwhelming, and it is often hard to know where to turn for help. There are many things that can get in the way of reaching out for help and getting the support necessary to begin recovering from the devastation. Here are some common obstacles to seeking help for divorce recovery: