Live your life for today. - Allison Pescosolido, M.A.

Divorce and Major Illnesses (Cancer, Heart Disease, Lung Disease and Stroke)

A new study by Amelia Karraker and Kenzie Latham (both at the University of Michigan Institute for Social Research) shows that divorce amongst older married couples rises when the wife (not the husband) gets a disease.  The main illnesses being cancer, heart disease, lung disease and stroke.  An article in the University of Michigan’s Institute […]

Be Your Own Hero and Save Yourself

Identifying Emotional Abuse

Emotional abuse (also referred to as psychological abuse or mental abuse) is defined by Wikipedia as “a form of abuse characterized by a person subjecting or exposing another to behavior that may result in psychological trauma, including anxiety, chronic depression, or post-traumatic stress disorder.” The National Domestic Violence Hotline warns that you may be in an emotionally abusive relationship if you partner exerts […]

Give yourself permission to heal. - Allison Pescosolido M.A.

The Power of Distraction

  We all have those moments when patience wears thin and frustration starts to build. During the trauma of divorce, breakups and separation, those instances may occur more frequently. Dealing with high conflict exes, the stress of moving and dividing assets are tricky even for the most amicable of splitting couples. This is perfectly normal […]

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Holiday Detox

Join us, March 28-30, for our Relationship Cleanse at the Esalen Institute in Big Sur. Divorce and the Holidays – Time to Detox As the holidays approach, there may be some stress about your new life circumstances. You may wish that you had someone special to share the holidays with, or maybe you have more […]

Go To Sleep

Get A Good Night’s Sleep

Get a Good Night’s Sleep R-e-l-a-x. Make your goal about relaxation, not sleep. Experiment with slow, deep breathing, relaxing your muscles one by one until you fall asleep. Set a schedule for going to bed and waking. Make adjustments to your schedule in 15-minute increments over a period of 7 days.  Eat right, exercise, and […]

When it rains, let it rain. Accept the world as it is. - Allison Pescosolido M.A.

5 Common Divorce Mistakes

Trying to Be Friends. You need to spend time on yourself, not redefining your relationship. Set boundaries and stick with them. Going It Alone. You use a professional to fix your car; you should use one for your health as well. Get professional help during your divorce. Lawyers for the business side, Mental Health Professionals […]