The intelligent become wise by learning from the pain of the past. - Allison Pescosolido, M.A.

The intelligent become wise by learning from the pain of the past. – Allison Pescosolido, M.A.

Those who do not learn from what has occurred are doomed to repeat the same mistakes again and again. Wisdom isn’t forgiving and forgetting. Wisdom is learning and building.

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Build Healthy Relationships, Be True To You

Be true to yourself, even when others might not agree. - Allison Pescosolido, M.A.

Be true to yourself, even when others might not agree. – Allison Pescosolido, M.A.

If you like dancing, dance. For if you let the opinions of others dictate what you can and cannot do, you will kill the best, the brightest, and the most child-hearted parts of yourself. Be true. Be true to others. Be true to you.

Live for Today

Live your life for today. - Allison Pescosolido, M.A.

Live your life for today. – Allison Pescosolido, M.A.

I want you all to do one thing today. It’s my wish for the whole world. Take 20 minutes outs of your day – schedule it in your calendar if you need too. Take 20 minutes out of your day for ANYTHING that you want to do that brings you a smile. Here are five suggestions:

Bury your toes in the sand or earth
Feed ducks or birds
Get a massage
Try a new hairstyle
Read your favorite children’s book

Step Out of the Shadows of Divorce

When you face the light you leave the shadows behind. - Allison Pescosolido, M.A.

When you face the light you leave the shadows behind. – Allison Pescosolido, M.A.

The thing about reframing your thinking – about learning the skills and tools you need to let go of negativity and past trauma – is that it opens you to possibility. As you expand your mind, you life will notice that your life starts changing. If you are stuck dwelling on the past, you don’t have any room in your life for living in the present moment. Don’t you think it’s time to walk out of the shadows?

One Step at a Time Through Divorce

Small steps repeated over time lead to great distances. - Allison Pescosolido, M.A.

Small steps repeated over time lead to great distances. – Allison Pescosolido, M.A.

I know what you are thinking! Really?!?! All this paperwork to gather, to file and to fill out – and that’s just step one of getting a divorce. The reality is that many things in life take a great deal of time an energy. Think back to your high school days. Remember when you felt like the years would never be over, that homework was an unrelenting round of tasks and how much you may have dreaded waking up so early in the morning. What you felt then is what you feel now – only now it’s exasperated by the loss associated with divorce. Take time. Make your progress small, but meaningful chunks. You have many years ahead of you, give yourself the space to use them.