5 Tips for Making New Friends

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How to have a great summer

Summer is the warmest of the seasons. The days are longest, the nights are shortest. Parks and beaches are full of life; the air is thick with possibility.

After a marriage, you may feel lonely and uncertain about what to do with this extra daylight. You may have relied on your ex for companionship and find yourself a single in a world dominated by couples and groups. But you can use summer to your advantage: talking to strangers and making new friends.

During summer people are so much more relaxed. It’s a great time to make new friends.

Strangers are simply people you do not know yet. They are just like you and me, and much easier to talk to than most people think.

The key to having a great conversation with strangers is to talk to them like you would a close friend. Be positive, open and quick to smile. Smiling will get you anywhere.

When starting a conversation, use any one of the following:

▪ Comment or ask a question about a book or magazine they may be reading. “Oh, I’ve heard about that book. How is it?”
▪ Ask about their lives. “I’m sure glad the weekend’s here. How was your week?”
▪ Compliment them on something they are wearing. “Great shoes! Are they comfortable?”

Remember that the past is in the past. Prepare a quick answer such as, “My ex and I are divorced. I’ve moved on to better times,” to keep the conversation moving. There is no need to linger on the topic of your divorce.

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You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you. – Dale Carnegie

5 Tips for Talking To Strangers

1. Smile

Research tells us that smiling signals openness. When you smile at others, you send a signal that displays a friendly intention. People are more likely to talk to someone who smiles at them.

2. Be genuine

Just be yourself. Relax and express who you are. You will find the people you enjoy the most are the ones who enjoy you too.

3. Listen

Show active interest in what the other person is saying. Ask follow up or clarifying questions. “What was your favorite part?”

4. Ask open ended questions

Allow people the opportunity to elaborate on their experience. If asking about a TV show or book, be sure to ask about favorite or interesting elements.

5. Have fun

If you aren’t having fun, neither will the other person. Keep smiling, have an open stance and keep the conversation light as a summer breeze.

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